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Motivational Monday: Comparison Is the Thief of Joy
Ever find yourself green with envy over someone else's gains or life achievements? We're all guilty, but this laugh-packed journey with Caine, Dawson's thigh-envy, and Mitch, our cherished third wheel, will turn those jealous pangs into your personal power-up. Forget the highlight reels on social media, we're tearing down the filters to reveal the grind behind the glam. From sharing our own battles with comparison to celebrating the small wins, we're here to remind you that perfection is a myth and progress is the real game.
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yo, yo yo. We are back in here with another motivational monday. I got my sidekick dawson and our side piece mitch here for another special event of motivation.
Speaker 2:Today we are talking about mitch oh, we're gonna talk about today, um fuck what are we gonna talk about?
Speaker 1:I'm so sorry there was two topics.
Speaker 3:I'm so sorry there's topics. Comparison is the thief of joy.
Speaker 2:Comparison is the thief of joy and don't let perfection be the enemy of good.
Speaker 1:All right.
Speaker 2:I think this was enough, where we needed to just tie the two together, because I don't know if I can go off on either one of them for a half hour, but we can definitely tie them in together. When I say comparison is the thief of joy in my head. What I think is it's very easy for me to look at Dawson and be very jealous of thighs. Yeah, why the fuck aren't my legs absolutely massive?
Speaker 3:I have good chest genetics too. Kane, it's always the legs.
Speaker 2:So don't let that steal your joy. Don't get down on yourself about that, and instead use that as a motivation to be better.
Speaker 3:Instead of comparing yourself to someone in a negative way, compare yourself to someone in a positive way of having something to work towards and not getting down because you don't have what they have. I love that and like social media. Time back such means a really big problem with this because, a there's photoshop, b there's lighting and angles, c there's there's always filters, filters. There's always so many different, uh, different variables and, like there's been so many times, I'll like look at um, a competitor, I'm like god, he's fucking massive. And then desert, desert. I'll be like, yeah, but he's twice your age, he's got that, he's been in it twice as long as you like you, you can't really compare yourself to that because you know. So I feel like a lot of people. Just they don't shed light on, like the, the truth or the reality of it, and sometimes they can't because it can come out, it can be fake with the filters, the lighting, all that all that bullshit.
Speaker 2:I was going to say I'm not even in that way of discrediting them and saying that they haven't earned that, but you haven't earned that yet.
Speaker 3:So you can't get down on yourself. You can't get down on yourself for not having something you haven't earned yet.
Speaker 1:I like that I mean a lot of things that we can do is compare ourselves to other people when number one you need to compare yourself to who you were yesterday is what I try to focus on.
Speaker 1:Yeah, because I'm not in competition with you. I'm in competition with who I used to be or what I want to be, like you know, and each and every day, like you said, I want to make sure that I'm showing myself approved to what I, what I think I deserve. You know, if you want it, you go out and get it, otherwise nothing's going to be handed to you, you know absolutely.
Speaker 1:And when you focus so much on the joneses, you know you're always just going to be stuck in your head like regret, you know, shame, guilt, you know, and jealousy and stuff like that and that's going to take away and tie you down from putting in the fucking work yeah, and I mean tying back into the a couple episodes ago where I was saying you have, you do have to be your own biggest competitor and like then I didn't keep up with the joneses for that specific reason I tried not to like.
Speaker 3:If I'm bored and I'm like eating a meal and I want to like, I'll just scroll youtube like that video looks pretty good. Otherwise I'll watch some dude eat like 60 000 calories in a day, some like outlandish shit, but like in terms of trying to keep up with one specific person and be like oh my god, and like for, for example, for the longest time I was, I was like that with c-bomb and I was just c-bombs a beast yeah, I was like, oh my god, but uh, but now to the point of like just the way he carries himself too is extremely humble and all that aspect and I, like, I admire just more than physique aspect, I admire the fact, like the way he carries himself in his relationship and life and things like that.
Speaker 3:But you can't like specifically look at one person and be like that's what I want to look like, that's what I want to be. I'm trying to like. You got to be.
Speaker 2:You got to be just locked in with yourself you gotta be yourself and you can't compare yourself in a negative way to someone who's done the work to get to where they are you know, it's not even like just with bodybuilding, working on anything like that.
Speaker 2:It's with. I mean, social media is terrible with the money thing. How many social media influencers are these multi-millionaire, these huge, huge personalities that have shit loads of money and sports, cars and houses and stuff like that? Everyone gets so down on themselves because they're not rich? A lot of motherfucker do the work to get rich if that's what you want, then go get it right.
Speaker 3:Well, a lot of the times too, it could be. It could be a brand deal, that brand pretty much exactly they could rent a car, you know exactly or or it could be.
Speaker 2:You know, obviously they're, they're influencers, they're playing a character. You didn't see the 10 years of hard work it took them to get the fucking money. So don't get down on yourself and say like, oh, they don't fucking deserve it because you don't know what they went through to get it.
Speaker 1:What's that saying that everybody says, or whatever you, you don't, you don't see what everybody's doing in private to get what they do and or how?
Speaker 2:yeah to see what you. Only see what they're doing in public you don't, you don't get to see the work, yeah yeah, because that's not marketable and the work isn't marketable no one sees that. Because why would I show? Why would I show me at work every day when I can show a picture of the car that I bought with the money?
Speaker 1:that I made and speak loud because you're showing the results, man, exactly showing the fucking results. We're not telling you what we're doing or how we're doing it or whatever. You just see my results from the work that we put in.
Speaker 2:So it's super easy to compare yourself to, like a david dobrik who's this multi-multi-millionaire?
Speaker 3:but like you didn't see, what it took for him to get the money.
Speaker 2:You know you don't know where he came from you don't know what he did to get there, so you can't. You can't get down on yourself for not being fucking rich or not being jacked or anything if you haven't put in the time and effort to do it.
Speaker 3:Even I don't want to say been allowed to put in time, but like yeah, you, just you just started and this, this motherfucker's been at it for 12 years. Exactly like you got to take a step back and be like I'm going to be twice as far in 12 years because I have more knowledge now going into it. I have like more of a set plan going into it, like because you got to think like it could even be a mentor. They went through all the trials and tribulations and all like all that shit in the beginning and now they're giving you the knowledge that they've learned over the course of 12 years and that's that can further excel you. So you can take a step back and look and be like okay, in 12 years I'm going to be even further, because I have.
Speaker 3:I have that knowledge upfront, right away, right.
Speaker 1:Yep, and I think too, instead of looking at it in a negative sense of comparison, look at it as a motivation. You know what I mean. For instance, for me, my guy that I work for my homeboy, travis Monahan, at home front exterior shout out if you guys need a roof, just hit me up. Shameless plug, shameless plug. But no, he started this company about a year ago and I honestly, in all humility, have never seen anybody that good at sales before in that industry and before, when I was immature and sell or insecure whatever, but like, oh, that sucks, I'm not gonna, I'm not gonna make as many sales as him or whatever. But now it motivates me. Like when he starts getting amped up, I'm like shit, let's go, dude, let's like. You know what I mean like let's get to work. And instead of it I'm comparing myself like he's better than me. I'm learning from him and using that as a motivation to grind harder yeah, you know, cody's one of the one of my biggest motivators.
Speaker 2:Uh, I mean, like a year ago I had talked to cody like once in my life and now we're like, if I don't talk to him every day, shit's weird. And uh, I see, I see the shit that he has. You know, a lot of people might not think it's like anything extravagant, but he's got a fucking beautiful wife and a kid and a house and he drives a fucking tesla and he's got this badass podcast that he shoots with his buddies and it's like, why the fuck wouldn't I want to be a part of that? I wouldn't. I mean, and he's, he's very good about being like join me instead of being like look at me.
Speaker 1:Yeah, come along for the fucking ride, dude, and those are the type of people you really want to surround yourself with Absolutely the humble people, the helpful people and just the people that are in a position or place where you want to be.
Speaker 2:That's like well you know, if you get in a room with five addicts, you're going to become the sixth addict, but if you get in a room with five, you want you will be a part of it, for sure, for sure.
Speaker 3:Proud of your environment, that's why I'm sitting here with two jack motherfuckers.
Speaker 2:If you go to the bar, it'd be huge by the time I leave.
Speaker 1:Yeah, absolutely, and what was the other portion of this segment we were talking about?
Speaker 2:don't let don't let perfect be the enemy of good. Oh you know, don't you see all this shit online? It's, it's another big thing. You, you see people and you think that they have a perfect life and it like a lot of people get down on themselves and get unmotivated and say, god damn it, why can't I have that? When instead you should say, well, what's, what's small things that I can improve? How can I get better? And getting better does not mean that you can't be perfect. It's like I don't know if you get what I'm saying. It's hard for me to fucking explain it.
Speaker 1:I actually said something similar to a friend of mine who I'm signing up to start training in the gym. He's going through all these battles in his life and I'm not going to put his personal business out there, but he's going through a lot of struggles and I tell everybody that for me in my life, the number one thing that keeps me grounded and builds my momentum is my lifestyle in the gym, my dieting, my overall health. If you're not healthy, then you're not going to be healthy in other places in your in your life. If you're drinking every day, if you're eating shit, if you're not sleeping properly, then everything else is going to start falling apart. So I tell them it's one win you worry about one win today.
Speaker 1:What can, can I win today? And then you start stacking those wins every day, one win, after one win, after one win, and then, pretty soon, you're just gonna be a fucking wrecking ball you know, I mean just be.
Speaker 2:Just because you're not perfect doesn't mean that getting better is bad. No, that's. There's no other way to get there. It doesn't happen overnight.
Speaker 1:It's progression dude. That's. One thing I've definitely learned in my life is that, like we've been talking about all these multimillionaires, they didn't get there overnight, like you said, you know what I mean. It's time after time of failing and getting back up and being a little bit better today than I was yesterday. Six months I'm better than I was last year, and now you know, 10 years later, five years later. Now I'm pretty much where I wanted to be type shit.
Speaker 2:You, you don't realize how much failure helps you until you fail enough. Yeah, you always like it's so easy to get down on yourself about fucking up. And then you realize, once you get past it you know a year in the future like man, I wouldn't have made it anywhere if I didn't fuck that up, If I didn't fail, if I didn't get down on myself, I would have never made it past it.
Speaker 3:Perspective too. I mean a lot of people take, say, you're at work and you get your ass chewed for doing something wrong, and then in that, they show you how to do it right. Some people are like, oh, I got yelled at at work today. No, have the perspective of that was a win, because now, moving forward, I know what to do right and how to do it. Yeah, so I feel like having that perspective and keeping that reality of like, hey, taking everything with a grain of salt, taking everything as as good and a learning experience, that's a win, because a lot people can be like, well, what am I supposed to look at for my day today? I got yelled at at work, I messed that up, so how am I supposed to? Well, did you learn how to do it right? Did you learn from your mistakes?
Speaker 2:That's a win.
Speaker 3:That's a fucking win.
Speaker 2:Yeah, are you going to tuck your tails and be a bitch about it, or are you going to improve yourself because of it? You know it's. It's one of those things where, uh, the benefit of getting yelled at for something is you never have to get yelled at for it again as long as you learned. Yeah, if you're not a sponge, then obviously you're not going to make it anywhere. But you gotta, you gotta, be a sponge. You gotta, you gotta, take every bit of knowledge that you can and and benefit from even harsh words you know, there's nothing wrong with getting yelled at, as long as you learn from it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's a good thing, it's a damn good thing, yeah.
Speaker 1:And again, it comes down to you know how is it going to help you grow? You know is is. Are you going to allow it to to make you or break you? You know, and I think a lot of times too in this world these days, especially as people are overly sensitive, like, oh, I can't believe you talked to me like that. I'm not going to work here anymore. Fuck this place.
Speaker 3:Or whatever. The grass is greener on the other side.
Speaker 1:And then, instead of learning from that trial or tribulation or that failure or that correction, you just cower down and you don't change anything anyway. And then you move on to the next place and you didn't change nothing to begin with, or you let your ego come into play and you say, fuck that, motherfucker, I was doing it right and fucking up.
Speaker 2:And then you keep getting yelled at yep, are you teachable? Yeah, you have to be teachable, man. God damn, you gotta be teachable. You gotta be teachable, it's the most important skill in life.
Speaker 3:As far as I'm concerned, that's such a good branch off yeah are you teachable, and it takes a lot of patience, dude.
Speaker 1:You know like I am probably one of the most impatient people when it comes to like wanting to be where I want to be today and not tomorrow it needs to happen.
Speaker 1:It needs to happen yesterday and some days, dude, I'll be kosher, it'll be fine, like I'm fine with a little progress I made today, and then other days I'll be laying on my bed like man, like what am I doing? Why am I laying down? It's 10 o'clock at night. I should be up doing whatever, you know I mean. But it's learning patience, it's learning to continue to execute each and every day. You know, and me, man, it helps me a lot to write down my goals that I need to do today, what do I need to win today? What do I need to be better at today? And you know, just continuously working on little things, man, and it's been so much more peaceful, just being okay with giving myself a little grace and in times and in situations, and just knowing that when I put in the work's, it's a, it's a theory and a, a serum of life, if it's going to happen, you know I mean, you can't not work and put in all the work and put in all the energy and it's just not going to be rewarded.
Speaker 3:This is not. It has to, it has to work out and it always works out. That's something I would say. It always works out and it has to because, like, if you yeah, like if you wake up every single day and you have a list of non-negotiable things that you're holding yourself to that standard of, and you do that day in and day out, and you are, you are set to it, and your mind is fucking made up and you're like, hey, I'm doing this. Yeah, it's gonna fucking work it has to, why wouldn't it?
Speaker 2:it has to, absolutely, absolutely. I can't. I hope I I'm assuming you're on the same page as me is after learning something. One of the greatest gratifications for me is being able to teach the next guy Dude.
Speaker 1:I love man, I love that shit One of my dude, my biggest passions, and those are things that I don't even care Like. It's. It's my purpose, man, and it's, and that's how I know it's oneiktoks and stuff. I don't even care if I get paid for that type of stuff, because I know I got a certain few people that really appreciate that stuff and it helps them and that makes me feel better throughout the day, that fires me up in the morning.
Speaker 2:I'm like, all right, let's go, even if it's, even if it's one person, it doesn't matter, it's worth every minute of it. If you can teach one person one thing and they really retain that, it is one of the best feelings in the world, especially something that you know you've failed on that you fought through, you learned from it and then you teach the next guy so he doesn't have to go through the same fight.
Speaker 3:Yeah, fuck man, that that shit feels so good to be able to teach someone yeah, you're right, and I mean even tie back with what I was saying earlier, like if, if someone's been at it for 12 years and then you're just getting your feet wet with the deal and they tell you like, hey, don't make sure you don't do this, make sure you don't do this, do this really focus on this. This is going to bring you far that right there. Like you know, I have these young kids that always come up in the gym and they ask advice and then sometimes it's like it's like my first episode on some kids Like, what do you think about me hopping on the cycle for four weeks? You know I have dumb questions, but I have like truthful, like heartfelt, like questions that I get to answer and I love it, like I have no fucking problem popping my headphone off, like what's up, and then they ask me a question.
Speaker 3:I'll take the time out of my, out of my set, it doesn't matter, because I love doing that, because, yeah, tying back. You know I would spend hours, like two in the morning, sitting there there watching YouTube videos trying to do the form record myself. Didn't like it. Watch the video again, do it again. Like hours in the gym, like week in week out teaching myself to do that injury after injury, and so if I'm able to like, help that person, be better at that, without having to suffer all that waste of time I shouldn't say waste of time, but like that time spent on injuries and trying to figure it out if they could just like, if you could give them a blueprint to run off of even better and be more efficient, then abso-fucking-lutely I want to do that yeah, 100, that's.
Speaker 2:That's one of those things where it's almost an instant gratification of like, before you even answer the fucking question, the fact that they asked you makes you feel so fucking good yeah yeah, because the second the second, you know the answer to their question before you even say it. You're like damn, this shit is fucking cool yeah.
Speaker 3:Makes every single second worth it. And yeah, tying with what Kane said, I've been kind of on social media or had a presence since I started this. Eight years I've been posting Snapchats, Instagrams, just trying to find my direction, the niche yeah, my niche with it, just trying to hone it in. Is it niche or niche?
Speaker 1:I think it's niche. I might be wrong, I don't know is it data or data?
Speaker 3:um, I'm just locked in, but uh, so like, yeah, it's just, I completely lost my train of thought.
Speaker 1:You're trying to find your niche, and that's what you've been doing for the last few years.
Speaker 3:Yeah, some videos exactly like I've been doing it for eight years. I haven't got a single fucking cent from. I'll do it another eight years and I get a single fucking cent from it Because, like I, truly just like, like all of us who truly just love educating, providing knowledge, helping people out, giving them, giving them that like sense of that, that joy, that, that, that direction, because at one point we didn't fucking have that, we didn't have a mentor to sit us down. We didn't have whether it be a father figure or a parent or whatever. Or we had to go to our foreman's to teach us specific things because we didn't have like that father figure. And like they, they tell us, hey, dumbass, do this, and then you have to take the good from it. Like we didn't, we didn't have that.
Speaker 3:So we get that joy and that gratification from providing that service to, to other people and we can sit back, just like you said, and the fact that they come to us about it tells us like, hey, we're at that point where this is all worth it, like the, the hard work, the hours, the dedication, like they trust us enough to come to us and be vulnerable and say, hey, like I'm really sucking at this. Can you help me Especially and be vulnerable and say, hey, like I'm really sucking at this, can you help me Especially for, like a young man trying to find his his footing in this life, you, you gotta like take a step back and realize that's so like you have to be so vulnerable to do that, to go to someone that's obviously substantially better at what you're doing than you are and say, hey, like I'm struggling, I need help.
Speaker 2:So you need to ask someone for help. You finally put your ego aside. You, I mean half the time. When you teach someone something, you don't even realize how much it's helping them right, yeah, and it ties in you have, you have no idea like what that could have changed their fucking life.
Speaker 1:On that day, and that can even also help them start inching to be better.
Speaker 2:Absolutely.
Speaker 1:Help them grow to be a little bit better than they were yesterday. I mean how many?
Speaker 2:days did you have as a younger dude? You know your late teens, early 20s, where it's like you just feel like you're fucking burned out and you just can't do it anymore. And someone hits you with a piece of knowledge, makes you laugh, gives you that little bit that just keeps you moving and that's everything.
Speaker 1:That's something, too, that I try to tell a few people that always ask me like, oh, why do you even do it if you're not getting paid type stuff or whatever? It's because that little bit of energy that I put into them I've seen it how it changed their momentum and that changed my momentum. And, like you guys are saying, like I didn't have that stuff growing up, I didn't have that stuff when I was a kid or a teenager and going through all my mess and drugs and everything like it was, just always people would fill with misery you know absolutely so if I could have had somebody to be like hey man, whatever, let's do this this way, it would have maybe it would have changed my life.
Speaker 1:So I don't want to let anybody else go down that dark path if I have the opportunity to help them out you know, absolutely, absolutely. But do you guys think that there's a? There's a balance or a negative of just being okay with being good and compared to shooting for your perfection?
Speaker 2:I. I think it depends on who you are, but I think there's never. I don't think that I don't think there's ever a negative in trying to better yourself. I don't think there's ever a negative in in getting better or being good. You know, if you want to stop at good, then I think, then I think eventually it's not good anymore, yeah, but I think the constant bettering yourself is what good is, and I don't think you can ever really reach perfection. I don't, I don't. I think if you are motivated enough, you're never really going to reach what you consider perfection yeah, I, yeah, I totally believe it.
Speaker 3:And like, tying in with what I've mentioned a few times, it's like sometimes you do have to stop and kind of appreciate where you've, where you've came and how you've gotten here and like all that, and I think that's just where you're hanging on, that good for a little while, whether it be you know, you put a fucking progress photo side by side. You take five minutes.
Speaker 1:You're like damn I do that every day yeah, they're like damn that five.
Speaker 3:That five minutes is like you kind of baseline in that good yeah or you know, life keeps throwing little curveballs at you, that it's out of your control and you have to. Unfortunately, you have to kind of put your, your goals and things like that on the back burner for a little while. So you have to just be okay with being good yeah but then as soon as, as soon as you can, that's where you have to like light that fire under your ass. Again. You're like okay, like all fucking gas, no.
Speaker 2:I think, at a certain point, um once you become stagnant, then it's no longer good if you, if you start it good and you get stagnant for too long. Good is no longer good and you just have to continue and how do you snap out of that?
Speaker 1:you think if you were somebody that was stuck, stagnant, or have you been stuck?
Speaker 2:I've been stuck, I mean every day. It happens all the time. Sometimes you just get down on yourself and you're like, fuck, I did enough today. And then you sit around for five minutes. You're like did you really, though? I want to, I want to give you your flowers on that.
Speaker 3:You remember when you snapchatted me and you told me like you got home late as fuck from work and then you went and you did body weight workouts.
Speaker 2:Remember that night. You're like I got home late. I was. I did it in my driveway. It was 20 degrees out.
Speaker 3:I was in my driveway that when he sent me that snap, I was like my fucking guy like right yeah that, that shit right there. That's something to be fucking proud of for sure and I'm not.
Speaker 2:I have there's been days where I've done the opposite of come home and be burned out and been like I'm not gonna do it I just can't, you know and I could have knowing now I could have.
Speaker 3:I'm, I was just being a fucking bitch, but yeah, you know and I think it's all about improvement it's not about being perfect yeah, no one is and no one's ever gonna be to tie yeah, to tie kind of back into what I was saying, to try to correct it a little bit, I think, yeah, if you, if you're sitting on good for too long, it can become stagnant and that's bad. Like that's when, like your, your journey to your goals can become stale. Um, but I think that's where it's very important to have, like, have a, you could have them written down or be self-aware enough to understand, like, hey, I can't control this right now. Like you know, life is life through this tremendous curveball. I mean, I know that I'm riding the good for a little bit, but I will be back and I need to. I need to hold myself to that fucking standard be back and be better 100 you have.
Speaker 2:You have to come back and go for more improvement, otherwise you're just going to become stagnant and like dude. I up like high school to four months ago I was just stagnant and I rode for so long on the idea that I was 10 pounds lighter than when I graduated high school. I rode on that fucking idea for like three years and then I'm like motherfucker, you're still fat Like quit. What are you doing that for?
Speaker 3:It's not impressive anymore. It was. It was cool for like the first six months. Yeah, I mean to tie, for an example. Uh, like when I tore my hamstring, like I took three days off the gym and I sat through a little fucking pity party. Three days later got back in, I was hitting it, I was hitting chest day I was. I was trying to get like an arm pump as best I could. I. I had to take six months completely off of legs and that was me just sitting there understanding like okay, it's good right now am I? Am I gonna get bigger legs and my legs gonna grow at all? Fuck, no, they're not. But like I'm, I'm just sitting with the good, but once I'm back I'm gonna be better than ever. And that's exactly what the fuck happened, because I kept putting those reminders in place for myself.
Speaker 2:Like I understand, right now I can't go squat, I understand I can't train legs right now, but when I can I'm gonna fucking train like an animal and that's the problem is, when you're in that state of you literally are like physically incapable of doing something, and then you get on social media and you see everyone else is hitting legs and they're getting bigger and they're doing their thing and it feels so disgusting yeah but that's the whole point of this motherfucking motivational monday is.
Speaker 1:There's nothing wrong with good, as long as you want improvement you cannot be perfect as long as you're gaining towards quit comparing yourself in a negative way and start comparing in a positive way and I think there's healthy boundaries with with that, with that and obviously like a negative sense, like you guys are saying. You know, for me I wake up every day and it's like the pursuit of perfection how am I going to be better today?
Speaker 1:You know, but for some people, like that's overwhelming for them, where they don't want to do that, and that's fine too.
Speaker 1:But I think for me, man, like to continue on, like when I don't know exactly what I'm going to do, and just continuously look for other avenues where I can get better, or whatever it may be, then that's something that I'm going to do, because I feel like everybody was put on this earth, like I said before, with a specific purpose or a specific reason that that they're here for, and I think to continuously like search for that and want to be aiming towards that is is is very key to your own happiness and your peace.
Speaker 1:But you know, for me, like when I get stagnant or I get stuck in something, man, then I have to remember like the basics of, like what I was doing beforehand in order to be like that passionate about what I was doing before. So, for instance, like if I stopped going to church and I stopped going to meetings and I stopped doing like my volunteer work, then I start falling off and like being passionate or whatever. Then like, all right, well, maybe I should start doing these things again that I was inspired by before.
Speaker 1:Yep you know what I mean or doing new things, taking up knitting or whatever it might be to shout out, shout out my closet but no. So, like I had a conversation with somebody yesterday about this, like how do you know what your purpose is? Well, I really don't. You know, I mean, and I don't think a lot of people do, and I think your purpose can change, I think your, your visions can change and they will evolve and they'll grow just because I want to be the best salesman at my company this year doesn't mean next year I want to start flipping burgers or whatever, but I'm not going to flip burgers.
Speaker 1:I can't even eat burgers right now. But I mean, you put yourself in more and more positions and eventually you're just going to find out what you're supposed to be doing. I think.
Speaker 2:I had a question maybe start kind of wrapping this thing up. I had a question maybe start kind of wrapping this thing up. A question for both you guys is there's a pretty reoccurring theme through all these Motivational Mondays of don't jump in and immerse yourself and overdo it. What's something, like slowly, that people could work into on getting better, about not comparing yourself, about just being better? How's a way that someone like wake up tomorrow morning? What's something that they could slowly work their way into? On how to improve this aspect of their life.
Speaker 3:Write down, write shit down, write down a list of your goals, short term, long term.
Speaker 3:Write down, you write down things that you you like about yourself, write down things you dislike about yourself, write down everything that you know about yourself and then and then just work to achieve it. Don't just sit there and you know yeah, you can read it and remind yourself every single day, but actively do things to be better. And that is a phenomenal start because, at the end of the day, you know exactly what you like and what you don't like about yourself, what your goals are, what you want to achieve, what you're truly good at. You know. And just that's where you need to write those things down. Put it on fucking paper, hang it on the fridge, look at it a couple times a week if you need to remind yourself of it. And start with that, yeah, because not just because I fucking bodybuild doesn't mean you have to bodybuild and and so forth, but well, but every but everyone can write down whatever the fuck they have going on, and and that can be a phenomenal start. I think absolutely.
Speaker 1:Yeah I would definitely agree with that health realization and mindfulness, being mindful what is what it is that you're doing, you know, I mean because I think a lot of times we can just coast through life and not even realize that you're comparing yourself or you're not even feeling insecurities, or you're not even disgruntled by other people, and I think, becoming like completely honest with yourself, like man dude, I am kind of feeling, kind of insecure about this dude or this chick or whatever, and once you realize those faults in yourself, then you can actually start working on them.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I mean, yeah, I think, I think self-honesty was one of the, it was the driving factor of what got me started, of quit I like. I quit telling myself like I'm gonna try and do this. I quit telling myself like, oh, maybe if I did like this one small thing, I just I, I immersed myself in, I'm gonna do what I want to do and there is no other option anymore. I have to do it like I. I got my, my mindset changed to quit attempting things and start doing things.
Speaker 3:Yeah, that was, that was my biggest uh driving factor yeah, because I mean, if people get stressed out with, uh well, I want to do this, I want to do that, I want to do this, and they're like, well, and then they just fall off, like that's why I like, I tell people, that's why I tell people, write the shit down, so then you have like okay, where can I start on this list of things that I don't like about myself?
Speaker 1:and how can I?
Speaker 3:improve this list of things because it's right there, instead of your mind going a million miles a minute and this, this and this. I want to start here. I want to start on monday. I want to start just write this shit down and just pick one thing.
Speaker 3:You can start as slow as you want, that's it one thing because even if it's one small little thing, that's still a massive step to improvement. And and yeah, just making sure, like during that, you compare yourself to only not only you. I mean, obviously you know there's gonna be people that are better out there, but but realizing that and understanding that, but make sure, like along your journey, that you your biggest like competitor is yourself and your, your comparison, is your growth.
Speaker 1:That's it absolutely I think, that's a great, great spot to wrap this fucker up absolutely like always, do not forget to like, share, subscribe and get our messages out there, man, send us your dad road map stay classy.
